A New Me in 2023

We have all seen the ad campaign and slogan “A New Me In 2023.” A new year is upon is and that, of course means we are all supposed to make big new years resolutions to do things we have never done before, or conquer fears that we have been wanting to conquer , or lose 100 lbs! A new year can be exciting! It can feel like a fresh notebook with 365 clean white pages to write your story. To others it can feel like a daunting task to look at all that lies ahead of them.

2022 was a year of changes and accomplishments for me personally and professionally. Most notably was completing my health and wellness coaching program and passing the National Board exam and becoming a Nationally Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach. After going through this program it has made me think about the new year and resolutions very differently. In the past, My resolutions were always big and always included losing weight! I usually had some unattainable goal meant to be reached in an unrealistic amount of time. I realize now that I was making those resolutions out of hatred for myself rather than out of self love.

As a Health and Wellness Coach and energy healer I am approaching the new year differently this year and I invite you to do the same. I am a firm believer that we should always have goals, be it the new year or not. You may already have some goals in progress and just because it’s new years doesn’t mean you have to change or amend your goals. If you haven’t had anything that you have been striving for then maybe you can choose now as your spring board, but you don’t have to call them resolutions. Most people have already given up on their resolutions by February! I encourage you to start with some small attainable goals. Think about what it is you really want and then break it down into small manageable goals. If your goal is to lose some weight start by thinking about what gets in your way? Are you drinking your water? are you getting in exercise? are you eating healthful nutritious foods that fill you up? Then go from there. and choose ONE thing for the week. Maybe you decide you aren’t ready to start exercising but you only drink about 24oz of water a day and you want to increase that. I encourage you to start small by saying maybe you increase to 32oz for a few days, then 48oz for a few more days then get up to 64oz. Increasing slowly and incrementally will allow you to let go of the all or nothing mentality. My suggestion would be to write down your goal and track it, if you didn’t make your goal write down what got in your way and how you can change that for tomorrow, however I ask you to be kind to yourself in this process, don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t make your goal, use it as a learning experience.

Making goals can be an important first step in making any change in your life. I would encourage you to make your goals based on that of self love!, If your goal is to lose weight, don’t lose weight because you hate how you look, but rather lose weight because you love yourself enough to make goals to improve your health because you want to be a healthier person. If you want to make a goal to find a new job, don’t think about it in terms of, I hate my job, but rather, I want to find a job that fills my soul and life with purpose and is meaningful for me. Do you see how by just changing your wording you are being kinder to yourself?

So how are you going to start out the new year for yourself? What goals are you going to set for yourself? What feels good and doable for you? Whatever they are, be kind to yourself through the process and choose your goals out of self love!

Self Care Is More Important Than You Think!

For quite a while now I have been saying, “I need a day off,” “ I need to take more time for myself” and although I knew that and I could hear my mind and body screaming for me to listen I chose not to. I chose to push myself and continue to allow the stress to pile up without dealing with it. This weekend, the universe took the situation into its own hands. Seeing as I chose not to listen I was given a situation where it was impossible to not listen. I ended up having emergency gallbladder surgery. While I know this can be a common problem, I fully believe that this all happened because I have been not only leaving myself at the bottom of the “proverbial list” I haven’t even been including myself of the list. Between trying to work a full time job (one that has put more stress on me then I ever thought possible), taking care of my family and trying to build my business so that one day I can make it my full time job I taxed my body, and If I wasn’t going to listen to what it was trying to tell me then something was going to make me. 2 days in the hospital and now time off for recovery. Yet through all that while in the hospital I was still considering going to work the day after getting home. Even full well knowing I needed to take time for myself it was some thing I considered. Again I was stopped in my tracks, the pain was too bad for me to go back to work. So I finally conceded Tueday the kids were home all day because of a PD day at school which meant there wasn’t a ton of rest that happened. Wdnesday all the kids went to school and I was left at home to finally have some recovery time to myself. I took a big chunk of the day to reflect and reset. It is so easy to get so caught up in life that we forget to live it, we forget to do what makes us happy because we are so caught up in what makes us unhappy. It’s sometimes easier to deal with everyone else’s “stuff” than worry about our own and how we are feeling. I’m here to tell you that you can either choose to take the time and deal with it yourself or you will be forced to deal with it in other ways. I am unfortunately being “forced” to rest because I chose not to listen to that voice in my head that was telling me to slow down and take some time for me. After looking back and reflecting I’m choosing to be grateful. I’m choosing to look at this as an opportunity to reconnect with myself and what I need to do for myself because I need to be my best self so I can do what I love... which is helping others through energy work and friendship. I want to get back to being the happy mom and wife I know I can be but have lost through the stress. These past 12 months I have had some serious changes, and with change comes uncertainty and sometimes what we thought was going to be a good change isn’t what we expected it to be, but through it all we learn, we grow and we continue to put one foot in-front of the other hold our head up and try to do better for ourself the next day.